What is Pet Space?

Pet space (also called pet regression or animal regression) is a headspace where individuals take on the characteristics, behaviors, and mindset of an animal. Like age regression, this can be therapeutic, recreational, or a natural response to stress.

• Identity Expression: Connecting with an animal that represents your inner self
• Stress Relief: Simplifying thoughts to basic animal instincts
• Non-Verbal Communication: Expressing needs without words
• Physical Freedom: Moving and playing in new ways
• Pack/Pride Bonding: Forming unique connections with handlers and other pets

Common Pet Types & Characteristics

Pet Space vs Furry

While there can be overlap, pet space and furry culture are distinct:

• Pet Space: Regression to animal headspace, often involves power exchange with handler
• Furry: Anthropomorphic animal interest, fursona identity, often involves costumes/art
• Can Overlap: Some people enjoy both, but they're separate communities
• Different Focus: Pet space emphasizes headspace; furry emphasizes identity/creativity

Pet Gear & Accessories

Entering Pet Space

Triggers & Techniques:

• Putting on gear: Ears, tail, collar signal transition
• Handler commands: "Come here, puppy" or pet names
• Physical position: Getting on all fours
• Pet activities: Playing with toys, eating from bowls
• Sounds: Making animal noises
• Being petted: Head scratches, belly rubs
• Scent marking: Blankets, pillows with your scent

Deepening Pet Space:

1. Start with one animal characteristic
2. Add physical movements (crawling, pouncing)
3. Practice animal sounds
4. Use non-verbal communication
5. Engage in species-specific play
6. Let go of human concerns
7. Focus on instincts and sensations

Pet Play Activities

Handler/Owner Dynamics

Handler Responsibilities:

• Care: Feeding, grooming, exercise
• Training: Teaching tricks, behaviors, commands
• Protection: Keeping pet safe during play
• Structure: Rules, schedules, routines
• Affection: Pets, praise, cuddles
• Understanding: Learning pet's unique communication

Types of Dynamics:

Pet Communication

Non-Verbal Signals:

Pet Space Safety

Physical Safety:

• Use knee pads when crawling
• Check floor for hazards
• Stay hydrated
• Stretch before/after
• Safe words for non-verbal play
• Avoid actual pet food
• Be careful with restraints

Emotional Safety:

• Negotiate boundaries beforehand
• Discuss triggers and limits
• Have aftercare plans
• Respect when someone needs to be human
• Check in regularly
• Build trust slowly

Public Play Considerations:

• Know venue rules
• Respect vanilla spaces
• Keep it appropriate
• Have subtle gear options
• Educate when asked respectfully
• Protect your identity if needed

Finding Your Pet Identity

Questions to explore:

• What animals have you always felt connected to?
• What characteristics do you embody when relaxed?
• Are you pack-oriented or solitary?
• Do you prefer predator or prey dynamics?
• What sounds feel natural to make?
• How do you show affection?
• What kind of play appeals to you?

Remember: You can be multiple animals, switch between them, or create hybrid identities!

Online Safety Protocol

Information Security

• Never share: Real name, address, workplace, school, SSN, financial info
• Use separate accounts: Keep little space separate from professional life
• Unique usernames: Don't reuse names from other platforms
• Private photos: No identifying features (tattoos, birthmarks, backgrounds)
• Voice calls: Use Discord or apps that don't reveal phone numbers
• Email safety: Use a separate email for little space accounts

Vetting Process

1. Text chat for at least 2 weeks
2. Voice calls before video
3. Video calls before meeting
4. Check references in the community
5. Google their usernames
6. Trust your instincts

First Meeting Safety Checklist

Before Meeting:

• ✅ Meet at a public TBACS event first
• ✅ Tell a trusted friend your plans
• ✅ Share location with safety contact
• ✅ Set check-in times
• ✅ Have your own transportation
• ✅ Meet sober and clear-headed
• ✅ Bring charged phone and backup battery
• ✅ Have emergency cash
• ✅ Know where nearest hospital/police station is

During Meeting:

• Stay in public areas initially
• Don't go to private residences on first meet
• Don't accept drinks you didn't see made
• Keep your phone accessible
• Listen to your gut feelings
• It's okay to leave early

Consent in Little Space

Remember: Consent is ongoing and can be revoked at any time!

Before Regression:

• Discuss boundaries while in big space
• Establish what is/isn't okay when little
• Set up safewords that work when non-verbal
• Agree on caregiver responsibilities
• Discuss physical boundaries

During Regression:

• Littles can still say no
• Check in regularly
• Watch for non-verbal discomfort
• Respect if someone needs to be big
• Don't push activities they don't want

Safeword Systems:

• Verbal: Green (good), Yellow (slow down), Red (stop)
• Non-verbal: Hand signals, tapping, squeaky toy
• Objects: Holding specific stuffie means need break
• Apps: Emergency button on phone

Community Safety

At TBACS Events:

• Report concerning behavior to event hosts
• Use buddy system if feeling vulnerable
• Respect others' boundaries and privacy
• Don't take photos without permission
• Keep play appropriate for venue

Protecting the Community:

• Warn others about predatory behavior
• Support those who come forward
• Don't share others' real names
• Respect closeted members
• Report illegal activity

Preparing for Regression

Environment Setup:

1. Clear your schedule: No adult responsibilities for a few hours
2. Safe space: Lock doors, close curtains for privacy
3. Comfort items: Gather stuffies, blankies, pacis
4. Lighting: Soft, warm lighting or fairy lights
5. Temperature: Warm and cozy environment
6. Sounds: Quiet or soft background music
7. Scents: Comforting smells (vanilla, lavender, baby powder)

Mental Preparation:

• Let go of adult worries (write them down if needed)
• Give yourself permission to be little
• Remember: There's no "wrong" way to regress
• Set an intention (comfort, play, exploration)

Regression Induction Techniques

Deepening Regression

Once you've started regressing, these techniques can help you go deeper:

• Layering: Combine multiple triggers (cartoon + stuffie + paci)
• Routine: Follow the same steps each time
• Time: Give yourself permission to stay little longer
• Immersion: Surround yourself completely with little things
• Letting go: Stop fighting the regression
• Play: Engage in age-appropriate activities
• Regression journal: Write or draw in little space

Maintaining Little Space

Staying Little:

• Avoid adult topics or media
• Keep comfort items close
• Stay in your safe space
• Continue little activities
• Use little voice and mannerisms
• Ask for help with "big" things

Dealing with Interruptions:

• Have a cover story ready
• Quick-hide spots for gear
• Practice switching quickly if needed
• It's okay to pause and return later

Returning from Little Space

Gentle Transition:

1. Set a soft alarm or timer
2. Slowly introduce adult elements
3. Count up to your big age
4. Stretch and move your body
5. Drink water and have a snack
6. Journal about your experience
7. Thank yourself for the regression time

Aftercare for Solo Regression:

• Comfort food and hydration
• Gentle transition activity (light TV, music)
• Self-care routine (shower, skincare)
• Check in with online little friends
• Plan your next regression session

Understanding Your Role

Being a caregiver is a profound responsibility. You're trusted with someone's most vulnerable state and inner child.

Core Responsibilities:

• Safety: Physical and emotional protection
• Consistency: Being reliable and predictable
• Patience: Understanding regression takes time
• Boundaries: Respecting limits always
• Support: Encouraging healthy regression
• Care: Meeting needs appropriately

What Caregiving Is NOT:

• Being a parent (unless agreed upon)
• Having complete control
• Fixing someone's trauma
• 24/7 responsibility
• One-sided relationship

Types of Caregivers

Caregiver Dynamics Spectrum

Understanding the different types of caregiver relationships and power dynamics:

Play Partner (No formal CG role):

• Engages in regression activities together
• May both be littles playing together
• No ongoing caregiving responsibilities
• Activity-based rather than role-based
• Can switch who's "in charge" during play
• More casual, less structured dynamic

General Caregiver (Non-Dom):

• Provides nurturing and emotional support
• NO power exchange or D/s dynamic
• Focus on comfort and care only
• Little maintains full autonomy
• Guidance without authority
• Support role without control

Soft/Gentle Mommy or Daddy:

• Emphasis on positive reinforcement
• Uses praise, cuddles, gentle guidance
• Minimal or no punishment
• "Cooing voices and lap-time cuddles"
• Focus on comfort and validation
• May use ASMR-style communication
• Discipline through redirection, not punishment

Mommy/Daddy Dom(me):

• Includes BDSM power exchange
• Has consensual authority in dynamic
• Sets and enforces rules
• Balances nurture with discipline
• May use rewards and punishments
• Combines caregiving with dominance
• Structured dynamic with protocols

Strict Mommy/Daddy Domme:

• High structure and expectations
• Clear rules with consequences
• Emphasis on discipline and growth
• Still caring but more authoritative
• Regular accountability check-ins
• May use more intense punishments (consensual)
• Focus on improvement and goals

Caregiver Styles & Approaches

Essential Caregiver Skills

Communication:

• Adjust language for little's age
• Use simple, clear instructions
• Read non-verbal cues
• Practice active listening
• Be patient with baby talk
• Understand regression affects communication

Emotional Support:

• Validate feelings without judgment
• Provide comfort during upsets
• Celebrate achievements
• Be their safe person
• Handle tantrums calmly
• Recognize triggers and signs

Practical Care:

• Prepare appropriate meals/snacks
• Help with hygiene if needed
• Manage bedtime routines
• Organize activities
• Keep them safe
• Handle emergencies

Daily Caregiving Activities

Handling Difficult Situations

Tantrums:

1. Stay calm and patient
2. Ensure they're safe
3. Don't take it personally
4. Validate their feelings
5. Offer comfort when ready
6. Redirect to calming activity
7. Discuss when they're calm

Drops:

• Recognize signs early
• Provide grounding (5-4-3-2-1 technique)
• Offer comfort items
• Speak softly and reassuringly
• Help transition gently
• Follow up when they're big

Bratty Behavior:

• Set clear, consistent boundaries
• Use positive reinforcement
• Redirect energy to activities
• Natural consequences
• Never punish harshly
• Discuss rules when big

Long-Distance Caregiving

Daily Connection:

• Good morning/night messages
• Virtual meals together
• Video story time
• Online games and activities
• Watch movies together online
• Send voice messages

Care Packages:

• Stuffies with your scent
• Handwritten letters
• Coloring books and crayons
• Stickers and rewards
• Comfort snacks
• Photos together

Virtual Activities:

• Online coloring apps
• Virtual pet sites
• Reading stories on video
• Singing songs together
• Virtual tuck-ins
• Playing simple games

Activities by Age Range

Baby Space (0-2):

• Tummy time with soft toys
• Sensory bottles and shakers
• Peek-a-boo games
• Soft music and lullabies
• Bubble watching
• Texture exploration
• Simple cause-effect toys
• Mirror play

Toddler Space (2-4):

• Finger painting
• Play-Doh creations
• Simple puzzles (4-8 pieces)
• Stacking blocks
• Musical instruments
• Dance parties
• Hide and seek
• Dress up play

Kid Space (5-8):

• Coloring books
• Board games
• Craft projects
• Building forts
• Reading picture books
• Nature scavenger hunts
• Baking simple treats
• Science experiments

Tween Space (9-12):

• Video games
• Friendship bracelets
• Journal decorating
• Movie marathons
• Complex crafts
• Trading card games
• Writing stories
• Room decorating

Seasonal Activities

Quiet Time Activities

• Audiobooks and podcasts
• Meditation for littles
• Gentle yoga
• Cloud watching
• Stuffie tea parties
• Nap time with soft music
• Quiet sensory bins
• Looking at picture books

Group Activities for Littles

• Show and tell
• Group coloring
• Story circle
• Musical chairs
• Puppet shows
• Group crafts
• Dance freeze
• Treasure hunts

Finding Compatible Caregivers

Questions to Ask Potential CGs:

• What's your caregiving style? (strict, gentle, balanced?)
• What experience do you have with age regression/ABDL?
• How do you handle little tantrums or meltdowns?
• What are your hard limits and boundaries?
• How much time can you dedicate to caregiving?
• Do you want a romantic or platonic dynamic?
• How do you feel about diapers/bottles/pacifiers?
• What's your approach to rules and discipline?
• How do you provide aftercare?
• What do YOU need from this dynamic?

Compatibility Factors:

Trial Period Guidelines:

1. Start with a 2-week trial period
2. Set clear expectations for both parties
3. Regular check-ins about what's working
4. Adjust agreements as needed
5. No commitment pressure during trial
6. Exit strategy if incompatible

Caregiver Self-Care & Burnout Prevention

Caregiving is emotionally demanding. Your wellbeing matters too!

Signs of Caregiver Burnout:

• Dreading regression time
• Feeling emotionally exhausted
• Becoming impatient or irritable
• Neglecting your own needs
• Resentment toward your little
• Physical exhaustion
• Losing interest in the dynamic
• Feeling trapped or obligated

Self-Care Strategies:

• Set clear boundaries: You're not available 24/7
• Take regular breaks: Schedule time for yourself
• Have your own support: Friends who understand CG dynamics
• Maintain adult interests: Keep hobbies outside caregiving
• Practice saying no: You can't meet every need
• Delegate when possible: Share care with other trusted CGs
• Regular check-ins: Assess your emotional state
• Professional support: Therapy for yourself if needed

Healthy Boundaries Include:

• Specific caregiving hours/days
• Emergency vs non-emergency contact rules
• Financial boundaries (no exploitation)
• Physical and emotional limits
• Time for your own relationships
• Right to adult conversation when needed
• Ability to pause dynamic if overwhelmed

Support Networks for Caregivers:

• Online CG support groups
• Local munch groups for CGs
• Caregiver resource forums
• Professional counseling (kink-aware)
• Peer support with other CGs
• Educational workshops on caregiving

Power Exchange Clarification

Understanding the spectrum from non-D/s caregiving to full power exchange:

CG/l WITHOUT Power Exchange:

• Caregiver as supporter, not authority
• Little maintains all decision-making power
• Suggestions rather than rules
• No punishment dynamics
• Equal partnership with care focus
• Common in therapy-adjacent regression

Light Power Exchange:

• Some agreed-upon rules
• Gentle guidance and structure
• Positive reinforcement focus
• Limited, gentle consequences
• Power exchange only during regression
• Little can override CG decisions

Moderate Power Exchange:

• Clear rules and expectations
• Consistent reward/consequence system
• CG has authority in agreed areas
• Structured daily routines
• Some control extends outside little space
• Negotiated power dynamics

Full Power Exchange (TPE):

• 24/7 dynamic (rare in CG/l)
• CG has final say in most decisions
• Comprehensive rules and protocols
• Strict discipline system
• Little as submissive role
• Requires extensive negotiation

Little Space Communication Styles

Verbal Changes:

• Simplified vocabulary: Using easier, shorter words
• Grammar changes: "Me want cookie" instead of "I want a cookie"
• Voice pitch: Often higher and softer
• Lisping: Natural speech impediments may appear
• Third person: Referring to self by name
• Pet names: Using special names for people/things

Non-Verbal Communication:

• Pointing instead of asking
• Gestures and hand signals
• Facial expressions
• Body language (hiding, clinging)
• Drawing or showing pictures
• Using stuffies to communicate

Communicating Needs in Little Space

Basic Needs Vocabulary:

Using Communication Cards:

For non-verbal times, create cards with:

• Basic needs (food, water, bathroom)
• Emotions (happy, sad, scared)
• Activities (play, nap, snuggle)
• Emergency cards (need big space, help)

Talking to Littles

Do's:

• Use simple, clear language
• Be patient with responses
• Ask yes/no questions when they're very little
• Give choices ("milk or juice?")
• Use positive language
• Validate their feelings
• Match their energy level

Don'ts:

• Use complex explanations
• Talk down or condescend
• Expect adult reasoning
• Get frustrated with baby talk
• Force verbal communication
• Discuss adult topics
• Rush their responses

Conflict Resolution in Little Space

For Littles:

• Use "I feel" statements
• Take breaks if overwhelmed
• Ask for help from CG
• Use comfort items during talks
• Draw feelings if words are hard

For Caregivers:

• Stay calm and patient
• Get on their level (physically)
• Acknowledge feelings first
• Offer solutions, don't demand
• Use time-ins instead of time-outs
• Follow up when they're big

Understanding Different Relationship Types

Play Partners

• Casual regression partners for specific scenes or activities
• May not involve ongoing caregiving responsibilities
• Clear boundaries about when regression play begins and ends
• Often focused on specific activities (coloring, games, etc.)

Caregivers (Mommies/Daddies/etc.)

• Ongoing nurturing and supportive role
• May include rules, structure, and guidance
• Can be romantic or platonic
• Involves emotional investment and responsibility
• May be 24/7 or only during agreed-upon times

Romantic Partners Who Also Caregive

• Balance between adult romantic relationship and CGL dynamic
• Need clear communication about when in "big space" vs "little space"
• Both partners have needs outside the dynamic

⚠️ Avoiding Objectification

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

• Treating caregivers as "vending machines" - Expecting constant care without reciprocation
• Seeing littles as "toys" - Forgetting they're adults with complex needs
• Ignoring the whole person - Only valuing someone for their role in the dynamic
• Expecting 24/7 availability - Not respecting personal time and boundaries
• One-sided emotional labor - Only one person doing the work to maintain the relationship

Recognizing Your Partner as a Whole Person

• They have needs, desires, and interests outside the dynamic
• They need personal space and time for themselves
• Their consent can change - check in regularly
• They have bad days when they can't fulfill their role
• Their emotional wellbeing matters equally

Building Healthy Foundations

Essential Elements

• Mutual Respect: Value each other as equals, regardless of dynamic roles
• Clear Communication: Express needs, boundaries, and concerns openly
• Consent: Ongoing, enthusiastic, and can be revoked anytime
• Balance: Time in and out of dynamic roles
• Independence: Maintain individual identities and interests
• Support: Be there for each other beyond just the dynamic

Healthy vs Unhealthy Dynamics

Setting & Respecting Boundaries

Types of Boundaries

• Physical: Touch, personal space, physical activities
• Emotional: Sharing feelings, emotional availability
• Time: When dynamics are active, personal time
• Sexual: What is/isn't part of your dynamic
• Financial: Gifts, financial support, shared expenses
• Social: Public behavior, who knows about the dynamic

How to Set Boundaries

• Be clear and specific about your limits
• Use "I" statements: "I need..." or "I'm not comfortable with..."
• Set boundaries when calm, not during conflict
• Write them down if helpful
• Revisit and adjust as needed

Respecting Others' Boundaries

• Listen without arguing or negotiating
• Ask for clarification if unsure
• Remember boundaries can change
• Don't take boundaries personally
• Thank them for communicating their needs

Navigating Multiple Dynamics

If You Have Multiple Partners/Dynamics

• Be transparent about other relationships (if agreed upon)
• Don't compare partners or dynamics
• Manage time and energy fairly
• Each relationship is unique - avoid cookie-cutter approaches
• Respect everyone's boundaries about knowing others

Community Relationships

• Friendships with other littles/caregivers
• Mentorship without crossing boundaries
• Group dynamics at events and munches
• Online vs in-person relationship expectations

Red Flags to Watch For

• 🚩 Pushing you to go faster than comfortable
• 🚩 Ignoring your boundaries or safe words
• 🚩 Isolating you from friends or community
• 🚩 Making you feel guilty for having limits
• 🚩 Only caring about their own needs
• 🚩 Using the dynamic to avoid adult responsibilities
• 🚩 Threatening to leave if you don't comply
• 🚩 Not respecting when you're not in little/caregiver space
• 🚩 Financial exploitation or control
• 🚩 Sharing private information without consent

If you see these red flags, reach out to trusted friends or community leaders. Your safety and wellbeing come first.

What is a Caregiver?

A caregiver (CG) is someone who provides care, support, and guidance to someone in little space. This role can be romantic or platonic, and varies greatly between dynamics. Caregivers might be called:

• Mommy/Daddy (most common in romantic dynamics)
• Big Brother/Sister
• Guardian
• Protector
• Or any other agreed-upon title

How to Support a Little

Communication Tips for Caregivers

• Use simple language when they're regressed
• Ask yes/no questions if they're non-verbal
• Pay attention to body language and non-verbal cues
• Establish signals for different needs
• Be consistent with rules and boundaries
• Check in regularly about the dynamic

Green Flags in Caregivers ✅

• Respects boundaries consistently
• Communicates openly and honestly
• Shows patience during difficult moments
• Educates themselves about regression
• Supports your adult life too
• Has their own support system
• Takes breaks when needed
• Celebrates your growth

Caregiver Self-Care

Being a caregiver can be emotionally demanding. It's essential to:

• Set boundaries: You can't pour from an empty cup
• Take breaks: It's okay to need time for yourself
• Have support: Connect with other caregivers
• Maintain your identity: Don't lose yourself in the role
• Communicate needs: Your needs matter too
• Practice self-compassion: You won't be perfect

Building a Healthy Dynamic

1. Discuss expectations: What does each person need?
2. Create agreements: Write down rules and boundaries
3. Establish routines: Predictability helps littles feel safe
4. Plan activities: Have age-appropriate fun together
5. Regular check-ins: Dynamics evolve over time
6. Respect autonomy: Remember they're adults
7. Grow together: Support each other's development

Emergency Regression Protocol

If you're regressing unexpectedly or in an unsafe situation:

1. Get to safety: Find a private, secure space
2. Ground yourself: Use 5-4-3-2-1 technique
3. Contact support: Reach out to trusted person
4. Use comfort items: Access your emergency kit
5. Be gentle: Don't fight the regression
6. Document: Note triggers for later

Grounding Techniques

Safety Planning Template

Create your personal safety plan:

• Warning signs: What tells you you're not okay?
• Coping strategies: What helps you feel better?
• Support people: Who can you reach out to?
• Professional contacts: Therapist, doctor, etc.
• Safe environments: Where do you feel secure?
• Emergency kit location: Where are comfort items?

Creating an Emergency Kit

Keep these items easily accessible:

Recognizing Crisis Situations

Seek immediate help if you experience:

• Thoughts of self-harm or suicide
• Inability to care for basic needs
• Prolonged dissociation or confusion
• Flashbacks or severe trauma responses
• Being in an abusive situation
• Substance abuse concerns

Remember: Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Community Safety Guidelines

• Consent is key: Always respect boundaries
• Report concerns: Speak up about unsafe behavior
• Support victims: Believe and support those who come forward
• Educate yourself: Learn about consent and safety
• Check in: Look out for community members
• No tolerance: Zero tolerance for predatory behavior

Therapeutic Resources

• Psychology Today: Find kink-aware therapists
• NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom): Kink-aware professionals directory
• AASECT: Certified sex therapists
• Local LGBTQ+ centers: Often have resources
• Online therapy: BetterHelp, Talkspace (verify kink-awareness)

Educational Resources

• Understanding Infantilism - Comprehensive educational resource about ABDL/infantilism
• ADISC.org - Support community and forum for ABDLs
• DailyDiapers - Community resources and stories

Podcasts & Media

• Big Little Podcast - Discussions about ageplay and ABDL topics
• Iso Storytime - Bedtime stories for littles

Support & Safety Resources

• RAINN (1-800-656-HOPE) - Sexual assault support
• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988)
• LGBTQ+ National Hotline (1-888-843-4564)

Educational & Non-Fiction Reading

• "Different Loving" by Brame, Brame, and Jacobs
• "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book" by Easton & Hardy
• "Playing Well With Others" by Harrington & Williams

Fiction & Story Resources

• Foxtales Times (Archive) - ABDL fiction stories and serials
• LittleFoxy.org - Little space and ABDL stories
• Wattpad - Little Space Stories - Community-written fiction
• Archive of Our Own - Age regression & little space fanfiction
• DailyDiapers Story Forum - Community stories and art
• ABDL Story Forum - Dedicated ABDL fiction community
• CushyPen - ABDL stories and fiction archive

⚠️ Fiction sites may contain adult content. Always check content warnings and ensure you're 18+.

Story Recommendations by Genre

• Wholesome/SFW: Look for "non-sexual" or "SFW" tags on story sites
• Fantasy/Adventure: Stories with magical age regression or little space adventures
• Slice of Life: Day-to-day little space experiences and relationships
• Comfort/Healing: Stories focusing on therapeutic regression and emotional support
• Romance: CGL (Caregiver/Little) relationship stories